Can't Blame Ourselves for Everything!

Parents, I know how badly we all want to be great parents. And we take great pains to make sure that we are, right? I also know that when something doesn't go as smoothly as we want with our children that it's our natural tendency to blame ourselves. I guess blaming ourselves just comes with the territory of being a caring and concerned parent. We want to be good leaders of our kids. It's just what great parents do, or at least people who are trying to be great parents do. We can't seem to help but wonder what else we could have done, right?
Well, I'm going to say something radical here. Maybe we couldn't have done anything differently... Perhaps the fact that our kids are crying in the supermarket isn't really our fault at all. However, I'm sure we'll at least wonder if it's somehow our fault, though. But, I am going to say anyway that it probably isn't our fault and that we should stop blaming ourselves for something that we might not have had any control over.
Maybe we were just being good parents who were teaching our children that they can't have everything they want. Maybe our kids were having a bad day. Perhaps one of their friends has that item and jealousy reared its ugly head. The actual act of us saying "No" and the way they perceived it might have had nothing to do with any of our short-comings or parenting style. The point that I'm trying to make is that there could be a million different things going on that caused an adverse reaction in our child, and most of them probably have nothing to do with us. So, let's stop blaming ourselves for at least this one thing, okay?
Now, as my Granddaddy always said, "Go learn, lead, and lay the way to a better world for all of us." Remember that we can't blame ourselves for everything, nor should we even try. And once again, parents, thanks in advance for all that you do, and all that you will do...
Father of five, bestselling and award-winning author, speaker, educator, and TV host Dan Blanchard doesn't want you to get down on your parenting style when things get tough. For more great tips please visit Dan's website: Thanks.
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